About Us
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Join Jess Vangsnes and Tamara Brown, trauma-informed relationship coaches and longtime friends, as they explore the journey of transforming your life and relationships. In a world where many feel overwhelmed and disconnected, their practice illuminates the path to breaking free from toxic patterns by using two highly effective systems for relational transformation: The Enneagram and Attachment Theory.
Unlock Deeper Connection: Our Path to Relational Wholeness
Are you feeling overwhelmed and disconnected in your relationships, stuck in painful, repetitive patterns?
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At Transforming Us, we help you break free from old patterns and foster deep, secure connections. We believe that truly resilient and fulfilling relationships stem from understanding your true, God-created self.
Our practical, practice-oriented approach guides you to transform old patterns of thought, feeling, and behavior. By deeply exploring the Enneagram and the principles of secure attachment, we clearly name your core patterns that need rewiring. This empowers you to navigate relational challenges with grace, build authentic connections, and experience a profound sense of peace and purpose within your most important relationships.
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In Coaching,
We explore enneagram and Attachment patterns in depth, as well as these 7 key habits to enhance your relationships.
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7 Key security building skills we will work on together:
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Thought-Observation Skills: Ability to observe thoughts, recognize their own voice and agency, and maintain a growth mindset.
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Somatic Processing: Capable of releasing trauma held in the body.
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Verbal Processing: Proficient in communicating feelings, needs and setting boundaries.
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Emotional Awareness: Maintain a wide window of tolerance, emotional vocabulary, practices self-regulation, and can attune to their partner or family.
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Positive Reframing: The ability to shift from a negative self protective pattern to a more positive and integrated one.
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Embrace Soft Resilience: Cultivate an open, grateful, and present outlook, practicing self-compassion and recognizing your worth. Understand your limits, and seek help to navigate challenges resiliently.
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Prioritize Rest and Play: Dedicate time for personal rest and reflection, essential for growth. Crucially, nurture your relationships by staying curious, affectionate, and playful with your partner.
Consider working with a coach to delve deeper into these practices and uncover your unique attachment styles and Enneagram patterns. Coaching can provide personalized guidance, helping you transform your patterns and enhance your emotional intelligence. Embrace this journey towards healthier connections!