The Enneagram provides profound insights into why we experience insecure attachment patterns in relationships. By understanding your type's core motivations and fears, you can navigate these challenges with greater awareness and grace.

Type 1: The Improver

Often feels the burden of being the only responsible one, leading to isolation. Driven by a desire for justice, rightness, and restoration, the Type 1 is a principled improver who strives to correct what is wrong, often battling internal anger and self-criticism in their pursuit of an ideal world.

Type 2: The Helper

Can feel exhausted from taking care of others without receiving care in return. They may over-identify with others' needs, leading to a lack of awareness of their own, and hesitate to express their needs due to fear of being rejected, causing isolation.

Type 3: The Achiever

Relies on success for self-worth, leading to loneliness when they feel they can't perform. Adopting a chameleon-like persona can disconnect them from their true self, making them feel without an identity. Relationships might become instrumental, leading to superficial connections.

Type 4: The Individualist

Often feels they are lacking something essential, leading to sadness. Their desire to be seen as unique can cause feelings of isolation, and they may withdraw from others in self protection, or melancholy.

Type 5: The Investigator

Tends to detach emotionally to conserve energy, and feels lonely. They may avoid engaging to not be a  burden on others, which leads to withdrawing, and their fear of being overwhelmed leads to more retreat.

Type 6: The Loyalist

Experiences anxiety that isolates them from others and may feel misunderstood. They seek external validation and reassurance but might feel lonelier despite being surrounded by resources. Anxiety around their fears can create a sense of isolation.

Type 7: The Enthusiast

Tends to avoid deeper emotions and suffering, leading to superficial relationships. Their constant seeking of new experiences can prevent genuine connection with others, and they may struggle to be present, resulting in feelings of loneliness.

Type 8: The Challenger

Their reluctance to showing vulnerability often leads them to mask tenderness with toughness, which can unfortunately alienate them from deeper relationships. This can also manifest as a tendency to engage in conflict, further pushing others away.

Type 9: The Peacemaker

Experiences loneliness when they lose touch with their own desires and merge too much with others, leading to a disconnection from their identity. They may feel lonely when reflecting on their purpose and what they truly enjoy, particularly during life transitions. They might struggle to identify personal interests and hobbies, feeling isolated when they realize they have neglected their own needs, and while seeking harmony, can sometimes feel overlooked or unappreciated, creating loneliness in their relationships.

“It is such a powerful tool to observe your default reactions  in relationships as well as offers compassion and  understanding others whom are wired very different from you.“

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From Old Self to New True Self:

This is Enneagram Pattern Transformation

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The Enneagram offers a powerful pathway to transformation, moving from our self-protective "old self" patterns to the more integrated and authentic "true self."

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Enneagram Type

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Type 1

Old Self (Common Traits): Overly critical, perfectionistic, trouble relaxing, angry, uptight

True Self (Transformed Traits): Responsible, persevering, reliable, conscientious, ethical, hardworking

Type 2

Old Self (Common Traits): Need to be needed, manipulative, martyr-like, struggle with codependency

True Self (Transformed Traits):Generous, listening, compassionate, hospitable, sympathetic, caring

Type 3

Old Self (Common Traits): Avoid failure, workaholic, image-conscious, can shape-shift

True Self (Transformed Traits):Productive, efficient, empowering, visionary, focused, optimistic

Type 4

Old Self (Common Traits): Melodramatic, prone to negative self-talk, moody, feelings of shame and envy

True Self (Transformed Traits):Authentic, creative, sensitive, compassionate, intuitive, refined

Type 5

Old Self (Common Traits): Fear being intruded on, struggle sharing feelings, emotionally detached

True Self (Transformed Traits):Curious, insightful, interesting, witty, objective, perceptive

Type 6

Old Self (Common Traits): Low-grade anxiety, doubt decisions, takes time to trust, problem-seeker

True Self (Transformed Traits):Trustworthy, loyal, honorable, responsible, supportive, practical

Type 7

Old Self (Common Traits): FOMO, easily bored, impulsive, hard to finish projects

True Self (Transformed Traits):Optimistic, enthusiastic, spontaneous, charming, imaginative, entertaining

Type 8

Old Self (Common Traits): Stubborn, blunt, fear being controlled, hard to be vulnerable

True Self (Transformed Traits):Just, merciful, protecting, compassionate, courageous, resilient

Type 9

Old Self (Common Traits): Go along to get along, avoid conflict, procrastinate, passive, lazy

True Self (Transformed Traits):Easygoing, humble, receptive, diplomatic, patient, reassuring

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